Domestic violence only happens to uneducated, poor and minority families.
Myth: Domestic violence is an "equal opportunity offender". Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of education, economic status, race, religion or age.
Myth or Fact?
Myth: Although there is a high correlation between alcohol, or other substance abuse, and battering, it is not a causal relationship. Batterers use drinking as one of many excuses for their violence and as a way to place responsibility for their violence elsewhere. Stopping the abuser's drinking will not stop the violence. Both battering and substance abuse need to be addressed separately, as overlapping yet independent problems.
Low self esteem causes victims to get involved in abusive relationships.
Myth: There is little evidence that low self-esteem is a factor for initially becoming involved in an abusive relationship. In reality, some victims of domestic violence experience a decrease in self-esteem because their abusers are constantly degrading, humiliating, and criticizing them, which also makes them more vulnerable to staying in the relationship.
Myth: The most dangerous time for victims is at the time of separation. Those who are abusive seek "power and control" over their partners. In attempting to leave, the victim is undermining their partner's "power and control". To a batterer, this is the ultimate defiance or betrayal. They may refuse to accept that their partner could or should live their life outside of their "power and control". This type of batterer feels justified in preventing their partner from leaving them by any means necessary.